Define Happy Medium

Been thinking. So here goes.

It is always difficult to judge how honest you can be in an interview. 

I suppose you have to balance "brutal honesty" - or should that be refreshing - with the white lies, with lying by omission. 

I had to omit a lot lately because I did not want to be perceived as an unbalanced nutcase who cannot handle stress and is constantly on the verge of another meltdown/breakdown. (I am currently reconsidering that. If you accept these facts of your life, and proactively let others know about them, is that not a good thing? Would you be perceived as being weak for that? If so, then move on. If not, well then that is a step in the right direction, the direction you would want to go, right?) Once you're in that box it's difficult to get out. (I wonder whether I put myself in that box from fear of not being strong enough, of not being good enough, of having to go out there and live my life essentially? Hm…)

While trying to convince others that I am the old me I also had to try and convince myself of the same thing - or rather of the fact that I was in a way a new improved version of the old me.

I say in a way because I believe that the last 12 months I have seen a lot, pondered a lot, had to ask myself a lot of questions. Now, I don't claim wisdom and complete enlightenment - but a few insights I have gained. How or if I will be able to incorporate this knowledge into my daily life, my actions, I am not sure yet. Perhaps I am doing it already? Perhaps I am carrying on as before? Seeing that my old friend called crippling self-doubt is still around and hangs out regularly makes me believe the latter. Which in itself is more frustrating than I can say. 

Thus, I am left with a bit of a dilemma – a) not quite knowing how resistant I am to my inclination to take on more than necessary, take everything personal, not be able to set healthy boundaries for myself. Does that sound like I should be seeing someone for that? Believe me, I am. However, this unhealthy disposition I believe I share with a lot of other people. Perhaps we are not necessarily the doers in this world, the movers and shakers as it were. Perhaps we like to stay in the background because that is our comfort zone. Perhaps we care a little too much and give a little too much, forgetting to keep something back for ourselves. We thrive on bringing happiness and joy into other people’s lives, yet we easily neglect our own needs.

And finally b) – not letting those issues hold me back in my search and my attempts to find a job.

A job. Any job?

Well, after over 12 months of being out of the game and several personal crises later I believe I have to concentrate first of all on getting back on the horse. Some high-pressure job should not be what I am looking for – I know that. And it is actually not what I want anyway – never wanted.

I am starting small and slow. That is the way forward. Otherwise I could just shoot myself right now and be done with it, not having learned anything and all.

I don’t want to take on too much because I feel obliged to do so. That old hat of ‘the more I do the more I’ll be appreciated and feel satisfaction in return’. Yeah right, when you look for outside approval you should know that is the perfect set up for a lot of pain and trouble. Just saying.

Coming back to taking things on: I can honestly say that right now I don’t even know I want to take on “much”. Maybe a “little” is fine, too.

So why do I feel something’s wrong with ‘small and slow’?